Interesting to read. What we (Ozlinksocial) do comes in at number 10 - 'try something new'. Not sure I agree with all 10 points. What's your thoughts?
All relationships need a bit of ‘TLC’ every now and then.
Whether you’ve been married for thirty years or have just moved in together, relationship education or counselling are great ways of ensuring you and your partner are ready for whatever life may throw at you.
As part of the Australian Government’s Stronger Relationships trial, you and your partner can access a $200 subsidy to put towards relationship education or counselling.
To find out more about how relationship education or counselling can help you, and the eligibility criteria, visit the Information for Couples page.
If you’re an organisation or individual that delivers relationship education or counselling services and want to be a part of the trial, visit the Information for Service Providers and Celebrants page for more information, including eligibility criteria.
The Stronger Relationships trial is running for 12 months, until 30 June 2015. To find out more about why the Australian Government has introduced the trial visit the About the Trial page.
Communication is a very important aspect of relationships and it needs to be clear on both sides for the relationship to work properly. So the question is, is your communication clear and without any interference from your beliefs about your past relationships? Or do you have some baggage? If you still have negative emotions attached to past events, and especially in relation to relationship issues, then now is the time to let them go so that you can be ready for your soul mate.
You might have some idea of the characteristics that you don’t want in a partner. It is really helpful to have a list of characteristics that you do want in a partner so that you might notice them when you come across them. So develop a list of criteria. You could use it as an affirmation that you repeat to yourself a number of times a day. One I have come across for women is: I welcome a loving nurturing relationship with a man who is emotionally available to me, who is honest, passionate and funny; who is my equal and my life partner. You can add what you want to make it your own.
I am happy to provide life coaching to you and help you let go of negative emotions, to formulate your criteria and expectations, and also to work out the best plans to meet your soul mate.
You might also benefit from my book, Setting Yourself Free - a practical guide to self change. By taking action on your goals of self change you can make yourself ready for your soul mate. Setting Yourself Free is available on my website and also at 7 bookshops around Adelaide. It retails at $14.99. It is available as an ebook on Balboa Press website, Amazon and Barnes and Noble for a few dollars.
If you’re interested in a one day workshop based on Setting Yourself Free. The workshop will be run on a weekend day later in the year. Please contact me if you’d like to attend.
Contact me today to take advantage of a special offer.
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Having come from a career with large institutions, I find it interesting how much small business misses out on some great activities corporates regularly participate in for staff moral, team development, rewards & recognition programs - all in an effort to grow results through improved teams. I understand why. Small Business in itself doesn't have the scale to book out an event just for their staff when staff numbers are typically much lower than 20. ......well that is until now!
What we do for corporates in team development activities, we now offer to small business.....at a small business price! Small business need not miss out anymore. Our formula for small business is to combine complementary businesses (non competing businesses) of 1+ people into small groups of 20-24 to run an activity in their chosen interests. We organise this direct with the business owners or managers, so you get an opportunity for
a) team development
b) personal development (depending on the activity)
c) staff &/or key customer rewards & recognition - and a chance to take relationships to a new level!!
d) networking with complementary small businesses.
Only has to be an afternoon out of the business, depending on your chosen activity. (we will look at a Saturday or Sunday if you can't do during the week). If you enjoy it, we can offer a variety of activities, so you all get to try something new each time, and we get to know your business to coordinate better outcomes for you. As one accountant recently said, his customers wouldn't believe he'd do something exciting, so he was keen to show them a side of him they don't know about, whilst he gets to participate in the activity with them. Takes business relationships to a new level!!
Register NOW for the 'biz' division to get updates (click here). As with our 'social' division, there's no joining or membership fees!! We'll then sit down with the business owner(s) and discuss possible strategies to achieve your desired outcomes....and as always, you, your staff and/or key customers will have fun too!!
Interesting to find out from people what they think loneliness is from their perspective. Some think it’s being alone without having others to share with, some think it’s not having someone to share those intimate aspects of one’s life, some think it’s not having a partner,….some think it is having a partner (that was interesting!).
So what is your definition of loneliness? Let’s face it, some can feel lonely in a crowd and some feel anything but lonely, whilst being completely alone. So loneliness isn’t about having people around necessarily. Must be something worthwhile in Kate’s previous blog about personality types (see last blog 1/5/2014)!! So if being with someone or not does not define loneliness, then what does? Could it be the ‘expectation’ you have for yourself in terms of mixing and sharing with others? I guess we all seek to have that special relationship to share our most personal and intimate details with someone. Sometimes we can’t find that in one person so we share different aspects of ourselves with different people. Some seek sex as an answer. Intimacy is something that I think we all seek but sometimes we confuse this with sex. Intimacy (in to me see) is about feeling safe enough about sharing your personal intimate details with someone you trust (same sex, opposite sex, doesn’t matter) without fear of being judged or negated. To have that relationship with someone or people is a gift worth nurturing. It allows you the chance to express a part of yourself many of us shut down due to fear!
Interesting to hear a person in a new relationship say how he can’t share certain things with his new partner. When asked why, he thought she’d judge him and maybe not want to go out with him (fear based thoughts!). If that is actually the case, should he be going out with her anyway? Obviously you can’t tell everything about yourself to someone but if a relationship is to grow, surely it needs transparency and openness to give it the maximum chance of survival and growth opportunities, particularly with the passing of time. If someone can’t handle some of the detail is it your problem or theirs? Would everyone knock you back if they knew? Probably not, maybe we have to find the right people to share with in our lives and maybe not grab onto the first head that bobs up (so to speak).
Blog by guest author: Kate Mason, "The Personality Coach".
New social situations can bring feelings of shyness and anxiety. How we handle these situations is often related to our personalities. Extraverts and Introverts each have their ways of managing these events.
Being shy has an element of apprehension, nervousness and anxiety, and Introverts may appear shy as they are often quieter and less out going than the Extravert. However Introversion is not shyness, Extraverts feel shy as well.
An Introvert is a person who is energized by being alone and whose energy is drained by social situations. This does not mean that they are unable to socialize and do not enjoy the process, it just means that after being with people for a length of time they need time to recharge and be with their own thoughts and feelings.
Whereas, an Extrovert is energized by interaction with people and the outer world, meeting people is stimulating and they find too much “alone time”, energy sapping.
New social environments, can be stressful for everyone, however the Extravert does appear to be more at ease.
Extraverts: Talk- Think- Talk, therefore, once they have found a ‘friend’ it is often hard to stop them from dominating the conversation.
5 Tips for Extraverts talking to Introverts
Introverts : ‘Think –Talk- Think’ and need time to process their thoughts and can appear non receptive.
5 tips for Introverts talking to Extraverts
Successful communication is easier when you understand each other’s style of interaction.
So who are you? What is the direction and focus of your personal energy?
by Guest author: Kate Mason